Monday, January 13, 2014

"Dating Dudes" in February!


Are you a single guy? And you kinda wanna meet other single guys?

It’s frustrating sometimes. You go to bars, bathhouses, or perhaps online… but you feel, these are really not the places to find love. Well, “Dating Dudes” is an event to meet like-minded guys and discuss these things. Why is it so hard to meet the right ones? What makes meeting other guys easier and less frustrating?

“Dating Dudes” is part of Love Yourself’s series of events where the goal is to have meaningful conversations, among guys of the same persuasion, on topics that are interesting, fun, and engaging. It is a by-invitation event on February 8, 2014,  Saturday, at an undisclosed venue. If you are interested to join, please register at  http://go.loveyourself.ph/DDfeb to receive an invite.

Tuesday, January 07, 2014

LoveYourself PLATINUM: Now in Mandaluyong City


LOVEYOURSELF PLATINUM is back! 

January 23 (Thursday).
04:00 PM - 10:00 PM only.

Limited slots. 
Book your appointment today: http://go.LoveYourself.ph/PLATINUM

Who deserves LoveYourself Platinum? 
This is perfect for people who do not want to be seen taking their HIV test in a center, clinic or hospital. Everything is mindfully prepared and ensured to be smooth-flowing for the most discreet and delicate clients. 

What is the difference when you come for Platinum?
Testing happens somewhere along Shaw Blvd in Mandaluyong City. When you register, a coordinator will closely and confidentially communicate with you regarding the details of your appointment, including the exact location and address.

During your appointment, you arrive and a private room is reserved for you -- where you will meet your counselor, and a medical technologist who will do the test for you. You receive the results within 2 hours, also in the privacy of your own counseling room.

Read more about what happens at LoveYourself Platinum here.

Saturday, December 28, 2013

Looking for a Program Officer and an Admin/Finance Assistant



UPDATE: APPLICATIONS ARE ACCEPTED UNTIL 20 JAN 2014.


Love Yourself will be implementing a specially-funded program in 2014, and to execute this, we are looking for two project-based employees:

  • Program Officer 
  • Administration and Finance Assistant
The project duration will be January 16, 2014 to September 30, 2014. Below are the qualifications for each job opening.

PROGRAM OFFICER
The Program Officer shall liaise with partner MSM, TG and PLHIV CBOs, and local and national partners and stakeholders of the program. S/he will manage and facilitate support grants allocated to partner CBOs. (More details of the job duties and candidate requirements can be found here.) 

ADMINISTRATION AND FINANCE ASSISTANT
The assistant shall assist the program team in the development and/or implementation of administrative and financial process for the program. (More details of the job duties and candidate requirements can be found here.) 

Interested applicants are encouraged to submit an expression of interest (EOI) letter and updated CV/resume (with list of character references), via email to info@loveyourself.ph and ronnievinn@loveyourself.ph (cc: pngoc.iseanhivos@gmail.com) on or before January 4, 20, 2014, addressed to Mr. Ronivin Pagtakhan, President/CEO, Love Yourself. Kindly mention in the subject line of your email the position you are applying for.

Technical review of documents, interview and written exam will be facilitated and the most qualified applicant will be contracted by Love Yourself.  Please take note that this is for immediate hiring to be based in Metro Manila, and contract period is from January 16, 2014 to September 30, 2014.



UPDATE: APPLICATIONS ARE ACCEPTED UNTIL 20 JAN 2014.


Sunday, December 22, 2013

LOVEYOURSELF VANGUARD: Lead The Movement

Today, LoveYourself is in the midst of a growing movement. We're opening our doors to a new generation of LoveYourself volunteers who can lead this movement with us. Interested? Read on.


LOVERS ARE VANGUARDS
LoveYourself is known for creating innovative campaigns, and building model communities that empower MSMs across the country. That simply wouldn't be possible without Lovers — our incredibly talented volunteers.

These Lovers are vanguards — people who lead the way; volunteers who have the passion, talent and love to transform our advocacy in new and exciting ways, and take it to ever-greater heights.




IN THE MIDST OF A MOVEMENT
At a time when attention around HIV in the Philippines is growing increasingly frenetic, LoveYourself has been one with the community, helping people dare to make the choice to love themselves everyday. In a society where we are taught that staying healthy means living less, LoveYourself has been changing the way we care for ourselves by injecting fresh perspectives into the conversation on safer sex. In a society where stigma is still the norm for people like us, LoveYourself is ready to share its vision of self-worth with the unveiling of LoveYourself ANGLO, a safe and affirming space for MSMs and their friends in 2014.

This is what LoveYourself has always been about. We believe that when you dare to know and be yourself, when you care for your well-being without denying yourself pleasure, and when you share your love, time and talent with other people, you are loving yourself.


READY TO BECOME A LOVER?
Do you feel passionate about our purpose? Can you commit time, pour energy, and invest love into it? Do you have the skills that can transform it into an outstanding experience for the community?

LoveYourself Vanguard is your chance to join us at the forefront of the advocacy, where we unite our diverse talents behind our common mission to create ripples of positive change in the community, and together realize the promise of LoveYourself.

Curious about how you can help? Sign up to volunteer on our website: go.LoveYourself.ph/volunteer.


NOTE: The sign-up period for this batch ends on 10 January, 2014 (Friday), after which all sign-ups will be entertained during the next recruitment cycle.

Year-end 2013 Holiday Schedule for Free HIV Test at the Love Yourself Hub

The year-end brings with it great positive energies, inspiring people to take care of themselves, and reclaiming that peace of mind they so very much deserve. For you, how about your HIV test?

Our community center in Malate, The Love Yourself Hub (a.k.a. RITM Satellite Clinic) which offers free HIV, Syphilis, and Hepa B testing, will have the following year-end schedule. Go for it! We have friendly staff to assist you. Just walk in, drop-in, and worry no more. For map and directions, go to http://www.loveyourself.ph/p/hiv-test-sites.html

Open or closed? Check out the schedule below?


Monday, December 09, 2013

Erasing Stigma by Example: Student Leaders Take the HIV Test

Roughly 1 of 4 new HIV cases now come from Filipino youth aged 15 to 24.

Alarmed by this trend, student leaders recently partnered with LoveYourself to take an HIV test, hoping to encourage more youth to know their HIV status and practice safer sex.

13 student council representatives from different schools trooped to the LoveYourself hub in Malate late last month. They joined 40 other visitors to avail of the free HIV testing and counseling services at the community center.


“It has come to our attention as student leaders that the incidence of HIV in the Philippines has been on a rapid increase. What bothered us more is the fact that a significant portion of these recent increases in HIV incidences come from the youth sector,” explained Arjay Mercado, head of the Gender Committee of the U.P. Diliman University Student Council, and one of the student leaders from the Student Council Association of the Philippines (SCAP), which led the initiative.

“With this in our minds, we decided to take the HIV test ourselves. We thought that if their student representation could not be good examples to others, then who can? That’s why we all took the test — to encourage the youth that knowing your status is something that should be top priority.”

HIV awareness campaign and university initiatives

By taking the HIV test, the student leaders wanted to erase the stigma of HIV testing, and encourage more youth to practice safer sex and keep their reproductive health in mind.

The student leaders' HIV awareness campaign culminated with a press conference on December 2, 2013 which coincided with the World AIDS Day celebrations. Read the students’ official statements here.


The student leaders expressed support for the Reproductive Health law, which will institutionalize an HIV-AIDS module in school curriculum. They also advocated for more adolescence desks in universities to help the youth receive proper advice on sexual and reproductive health.

Individually, each student leader is also working to enact changes in their schools that would help promote HIV testing.

“For example, in UP Diliman, we are lobbying to give training to our medical technologist and health service staff to undergo HIV-AIDS training so that HIV testing could be done anytime in school,” said Mercado.

UP Diliman also held a week-long lineup of events which included a commemoration of World AIDS Day, a forum, film screening, discussions on HIV and the RH Law, and also free HIV testing for students.

“We’re really targeting this age group through messages from student leaders who are very young so as to inspire them that the HIV issue should be their concern,” said Mercado.

Love Yourself provides free HIV testing for youth 

Love Yourself is proud to support SCAP and its student leaders to encourage HIV testing among the youth.

The advocacy provides free and confidential HIV testing, but all minors (below 18 years old) need to obtain parental consent. Friendly and knowledgeable LoveYourself counselors can help answer questions about HIV and AIDS and will guide every visitor through the HIV testing process.

Feel free to read our HIV testing FAQs to know more or schedule now for a free HIV test.

Saturday, December 07, 2013

FOOD PORN: A Fresh Perspective on Safer Sex

by Allen Yu 

Don’t worry, no fruits or vegetables were harmed in the making of this video.

FOOD PORN, the latest content offering from LoveYourself, is sure to cause a stir in the community: whether for its unconventional take on protection, its abuse of still life, or just that hot guy fondling the produce.

Wear it. Wet it. Better safe when horny.

Although conceptualized as a promotional video for condom-and-lubricant-use, LoveYourself is ditching the messaging strategies that have traditionally dominated the safer sex space, and pushing the envelope with its own innovative approach. This willingness to buck the trend shouldn't come as any surprise, given that LoveYourself has always had a track record of reinventing how HIV issues are advocated for, with viral hits like FLY LoveYourself: How to Have Sex and Avoid HIV and the groundbreaking Project 'Indulge'.

FOOD PORN isn't any different. Integrating lubricants into its core message contrasts noticeably with earlier, exclusively condom-focused safer sex promotion efforts (this is a big deal: it's little-known that water-based lubricants prevent condom breakage and minimize tearing on the anal mucosa, making penetrative sex safer). Older interventions just didn't seem to get how important sensation was to the quality of the sexual experience — a good insight when trying to understand why exactly people keep having unprotected sex.

Since it’s the experience that matters, LoveYourself has put that front and center: FOOD PORN basically speaks to the desire in all of us to have really awesome sex. Is there a bigger turn-off for tops than pulling out to find poop on the peen? Is there anything more terrifying for bottoms than having bowel movements while bonking?

Though depicted euphemistically, the message FOOD PORN drives home is clear: sh*t happens, but don't let it mess your thang. Save yourself the trouble: slip on a condom, and lube up. Better safe when horny!

The release of FOOD PORN is especially timely given the kind of sex MSM are having today: in late November, the news that unprotected sex had risen by almost a fifth among US MSMs throughout 2005 to 2011 (even higher among those who didn't know their HIV status) had federal health officials spooked. This rise was predictably accompanied by a similar jump in new HIV infections (22%), after almost a decade of decline. Those stats tell us that we need to revisit the kinds of insights we draw about sexual behavior between men, as well as the conversations we build around safer sex.

FOOD PORN simply wouldn't have been possible without the expert direction and production of Jedd Rommel (he's a big supporter of LoveYourself), the abs talents of Cosmo Hunk Victor Sy (who clearly puts the “porn” in FOOD PORN), food styling by Edge Joaquin, make-up by Jackie Seballos, camerawork by Jan Tristan Pandy, and the generosity of PNGOC and ISEAN-Hivos. Oh, and those fruits and vegetables who were totally not harmed in the making of this video. Kinda.



Monday, November 04, 2013

Certified Platinum: A peek into the most premium testing service in the metro

by Allen Yu   

Since LoveYourself Platinum first launched in January 2013, it's been nothing but a runaway success. Known for its hyper-discreet, by-appointment testing process and premium service quality, Platinum — already offered twice a month — is routinely booked solid.

For many of its clients, the discreetness makes it their ideal choice. “My past testing experiences were okay — straight to the point, very professional,” recalls Mike, who got tested with Platinum last October. "But given the stigma on HIV, I still prefer privacy and discreetness — and LoveYourself Platinum offered just that.”

Other clients go even further: for them, discreetness is non-negotiable. “The stigma is a hindrance,” explains JR, a designer who tested with Platinum last April. “The privacy aspect was paramount.”

Joey, a system administrator who also got tested with Platinum this October, appreciates that he didn’t need to worry about how to approach clinic or hospital staff. “The thought of directly approaching people from the clinic or hospital to get tested sounds really uncomfortable to me,” he confides. “I was worried of the stigma, because most people do not have a broader sense of understanding of this kind of thing.”

Apart from discreetness, many clients also appreciate that Platinum isn’t just a run-of-the-mill testing service. Care has been taken to make every aspect of the experience as comfortable as possible.

“The environment and the people involved are very much accommodating,” shares Waltz, who works in a BPO company. “You won’t feel like you are going to a test.”

Accommodating, but efficient. “What I liked most in the experience is the swift outcome of the results,” says a 35-year old professional who tested with Platinum last September, and has chosen to remain anonymous. “Also, the place where you hold it is very private yet easy to go to.”

Jerry, another client who tested last June and runs his family’s business, agrees. “I personally liked having a specified time to be tested, so there was no waiting. The staff was professional and extremely courteous. The location was also convenient. I would recommend Platinum to anyone who prefers privacy over the dislikes of the hospital atmosphere, with long lines and unsympathetic hospital workers.”

Given some of the horror stories that have gone around about these ‘dislikes’, Jerry’s comment highlights one of the great advantages of the LoveYourself Platinum testing experience: the counselors. Rigorously trained on HIV issues and health-plan building, they are the perfect resource people for curious clients.

“You get the extra knowledge on things that you thought you already knew,” says Waltz.

Max, a writer who tested with Platinum last October, also notes the “positive, information-driven approach” of the counselors, as well as their “consistent advocacy for everyday habits that lead a person to take better care of themselves sexually, and as a whole.”

Mike, on the other hand, appreciated the counselors’ empathy as much as their know-how. “Though we were strangers to each other, I felt genuine and sincere warmth. And that in itself spelled all the difference for me.”

The existence of Platinum serves as much-needed reassurance at a time when the attention around HIV is growing increasingly frenetic. The past year has seen a month-on-month increase in the overall number of MSM who have gotten tested for HIV. This groundswell of initiative from within the community could be a signal that people are becoming more aware of the presence of HIV and its implication on their lives.

“I’m in my mid-thirties, and sexually active with multiple partners,” shares Mike. “I know that I am at high risk.”

For some clients, the urgency of getting tested radiates from their social circles. “The recent surge of positive individuals made me want to know my status,” says JR. Here, as before, stigma (and the accompanying fear) complicates the situation.

“If you think that you really need to get tested, take the courage to do so,” advises Joey. “In my case, I became so paranoid and even physically ill because of too much stress. I decided to end the agony and had the guts to know what I should know about myself.”

JR concurs: “Knowledge is key to keeping oneself healthy. It’s not the end of the world — prevention and/or maintenance can do wonders.”

Others, however, feel that getting tested shouldn’t just be a reaction, but a responsibility.

“It is something I feel we owe ourselves to know,” Max insists. “This is one body that we have, and it really makes sense to be responsible for it and to be deliberate about what we do with it.”

“At this time and age when LGBTs are pushing for not just equality but recognition, it is important that HIV concerns are placed at the forefront of our agenda,” Mike concludes. “Getting tested is a tangible way to establish our taking full responsibility for our well-being, and interest in being part of the solution and the proactive efforts to deter, if not stop, the unnecessary spread of HIV.”


Do you want to get tested at LoveYourself Platinum?
Find out more about what happens at LoveYourself Platinum here. 





Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Victor Sy Stars in LoveYourself Food Porn Video


by Michael Jamias

One Saturday afternoon Victor Sy stripped off his shirt, unbuttoned his jeans, and started fondling food like he does his lovers.

Just all in a day’s advocacy work for the 32-year-old Cosmo bachelor and star of LoveYourself Food Porn, the outrageous new condom-and-lube-use campaign targeting Filipino men who have sex with men.

In the food porn video, Victor represents the primal urge of sex that can offer mind-blowing pleasure but can also lure unwary men into unprotected anal intercourse.

Delicious seducer

Admittedly a very sexual man, Victor eased into the character of a delicious seducer. By simply picking up a longganisa and staring intently into the camera, he had our knees – and probably yours – wobbling.


When the director asked Victor to turn up the heat, he grabbed the nearest banana, and felt the length of the phallic fruit along his cheek.


Satisfied at how the banana feels against his scruffy jaw, Victor then looked at the banana longingly while licking his lower lip.


The room suddenly felt hotter. Until Victor started fingering a donut hole.


HIV hits close to home

Not all straight guys will agree to perform these homoerotic food porn scenes, much less have them recorded for all the world to see.

But one compelling reason the ruggedly handsome chinito did so -- instead of say hitting the gym or practicing as part of the male ensemble for Rodgers and Hammerstein’s Cinderella at the Resorts World Manila -- was to help fight a plague that has hit close to home.

Victor revealed that he has a good friend living with HIV, whose fate may have been averted given stronger messages encouraging safer sex.


“When he first told me, of course it was very sad. You wanna comfort him but you do not know how to do it," recounted Victor. He said moral support after that confirmatory HIV test has helped his friend consistently take his medications and improve his quality of life.

"I give moral support. I ask how he is. He says he's eating well. He’s drinking what he should drink, his antivirals. And then I just check up on him frequently. He always says ‘I'm OK, I'm OK. Don't you worry.' He's very brave. But you can see he's really taking care of himself. And I think he’s doing better now than before."

Victor advises men who have sex with men, as well as everyone else, to practice safer sex by consistently using condoms and water-based lubes: “Sexually-transmitted infections (STIs) are so rampant these days for both males and females, so we need to practice safe sex to prevent the spread of all kinds of STIs."

“Use protection. Do safer sex. Love Yourself.”

Campaign funding

The LoveYourself Food Porn video would not have been possible without funding support from the ISEAN-Hivos Program, a grant that addresses the increased vulnerability of men who have sex with men or MSM population, as well as transgenders, to HIV transmission in the Southeast Asia region.

The campaign was also supported by the Philippine NGO Council on Population, Health and Welfare (PNGOC), the lead local organization in implementing ISEAN-Hivos Program activities.

ISEAN-Hivos and PNGOC previously funded the Fly LoveYourself  HIV 101 video, which imparts the factual truths about HIV/AIDS and its transmission. The video also guides viewers to a smart and scrumptious sex life with in-flight assistance from the adorable YouTube star Sebastian Castro.

Monday, October 21, 2013

The Straits Games 2013 Manila Kicks Off at BED

BONGGA AND FUN! This is how Chris Lagman labelled the event at the prominent Manila gay bar, Bed, last night. And rightly so, the two hours were filled with laughter because of kinky games, sizzling dance numbers, tempting prizes and of course, jaw-dropping drag shows. It was the kick-off party for the 3-day sports-centric and LGBT-focused annual gathering – The Straits Games (TSG). The event is held for the first time, since its inception 12 years ago, in the Philippines.


The night started at around 7:00 PM with the registration of participants to the sports activities and a light dinner. The program proper followed an hour after with Dennis Corteza, one of the event organizers, and Noel Contreras, a sports enthusiast, taking the mic as hosts. The welcome remarks of Ivan Yap, one of the brainchildren of the annual event and who hails from Malaysia, provided the objective of TSG. That is to foster “friendships and healthy lifestyle through sports”. He emphasized that we are a community, esp., the MSM, capable of leading a healthy lifestyle and not of sex and drugs; a message that somehow resonates to TLY’s mantra of DARE, CARE, SHARE.

Dennis and Noel then facilitated two games onstage to which the players eagerly pitched-in. Well, who wouldn't? With a promise of prizes, a chance to kiss a hunky Hilom masseur and if you’re lucky, an opportunity to indiscrimately frisk a hopefully beefy assigned partner to find condoms; the stage was full in no time. A dozen of gift cards and a hundred or so kisses later, the much awaited performances kicked-in.


First to jump-in was Helena Prasertkul of Thailand. It started well, she fell on stage halfway and twerked her way-up to the fascination of the audience to the end. It was followed by an electrifying lip-sync of yet another drag queen from Thailand (Boy don’t they run-out of these talents). The delivery of the first song brought the house down that when the crowd craved for more, she was happy to oblige. The last, which was the collaborative presentations of Las Mujeres and 38 Degrees made everyone feverish. It took almost half an hour but, hey, no one was complaining. In fact, had the audience had their way, they would have wanted more. Inspired by boxing, UAAP basketball and twinks (sorry, STUDENTS) in uniform, the sultry trio of Las Mujeres with their pompoms and the half-naked members of 38 Degrees strut their stuff and gyrated their oh-so-hot-bods to the music of “Eye of the Tiger” and “Roar”, among others.


Amidst all these, our indefatigable leaders, Vinn, Ian, Anthony and Chris, were at the background, unabashedly advancing TLY’s cause by arranging the showing of TLY’s video clips and the distribution of lubricated condoms accompanied by an ID tag promoting the use of it. They were assisted by Mr. Gay Philippines, Erimar Ortigas and a peer educator, Jester Jeff De Veyra.

Half of the participants fit on stage. Yes, they were few but they represent a group that attempts to break the stereotype – that we can’t actively participate in sports. Feel the adrenaline, build friendships, encourage a healthy lifestyle, incidentally contribute in breaking the stereotype and make the event more, as Chris aptly puts it, เหลือเชื่อ, tuyệt vời, 极好, hebat, fabulous, BONGGA!